For nearly three decades in education, I have witnessed how graduation traditions in schools have evolved rapidly. Today, across many educational levels—from Kindergarten to Senior High School—graduations are celebrated in almost the same way: wearing caps and gowns reminiscent of college ceremonies. Not only do students wear these gowns, but often principals and teachers do as well. Even without the gowns, there is an emphasis on formal attire. The gowns, paired with luxurious outfits such as modern kebayas or other national attire, along with various event accessories, have become part of the norm. What was initially meant to create a moment of pride for students and parents has now often turned into a competition of extravagance, placing both financial and emotional burdens on parents.

Behind these gowns lies another expectation: wearing traditional attire, sometimes national outfits, or even suits and formal evening gowns. These outfits, which are often an integral part of formal events, can be quite expensive, compounded by additional costs for professional photos, decorations, and other event-related accessories. Ironically, these events are frequently made mandatory by schools without considering the financial capabilities of all parents. Not all families share the same financial capacity. In international schools or those with above-average tuition fees (often referred to as “elite”), such traditions might be considered normal because students typically come from well-off families. However, when this tradition is imposed on schools with a more socioeconomically diverse student body, its impact becomes inequitable.

Almost twenty years ago, I attempted to change this tradition at a school where I worked. I proposed that before Senior High School, graduations should not be celebrated as formal ceremonies. Instead, they could be simple events to express gratitude for the students’ achievements. This idea was well-received because it did not impose unreasonable additional costs on parents. Unfortunately, not all schools are willing to adopt such an approach. Many prioritize using these grand events as promotional tools, showcasing the “magnificence” of their ceremonies on social media to attract prospective students.

What needs to be questioned is whether all parents truly agree with this tradition, or are they simply forced to participate due to social pressure? What about parents who must sacrifice other essential needs to pay for an event they did not even want? While these traditions might appear glamorous, they often fail to consider their benefits for all stakeholders. If graduation brings more burden than joy, should it still be upheld? Conversely, if all parties agree and no one faces financial difficulty in organizing such a graduation event, I have no objections and leave the decision to those who are willing. The point is not to force this into a uniform tradition. This is why I enjoy seeing and reading various stories about graduation events that come in diverse forms, not just as extravagant graduation parties.

Graduation should be a moment to celebrate students’ academic and non-academic achievements, not an occasion of wastefulness that highlights social inequality. It’s time to return to the essence of education, where happiness and gratitude form the core of every celebration.